Orgasms
Orgasms, basically the goal for the majority women when entering a sexual experience. Fun fact, an orgasm can be mild, like a hiccup, a sneeze, a ripple, or even can be a peaceful sigh. Or it can be a very sensual experience - it can be intensely physical or even ecstatic (you can even loose awareness of yourself it can be that powerful). Orgasms are basically a physical pleasure, however, it can have very emotional aspects as well. Intimacy and passionate feelings for each other can enhance the orgasm (as well as the relationship). Orgasms can feel totally different every time you have one, even with the same person. It can also be different when we masturbate or make love - it's different to different touches, you know - finger, fist, penis, vibrator. So how does one have an orgasm? Some people state that an orgasm is brought about through the stimulation of the clitoris, with contractions occurring in the vagina. But sometimes you can have an orgasm brought on by something else. Orgasms can be brought on by penetration of the vagina and feels "deep". The buildup may involve a prolonged involuntary holding of breath, which is released explosively at orgasm. Farther up the vagina are the cervix and the uterus, which some women find crucial to orgasm. Back to the clitoris - which is a major successful orgasm spot. It is the most sensitive to stimulation and has a central role in elevating feelings of sexual tension.
Often the clitoris is called the 'joy button' - for good reason. The clitoris is stimulated in many different ways - rubbing, sucking, stoking, kissing, body pressure, or using a vibrator. Any rubbing or pressure near the area around the vaginal lips can move the clitoris.
The film When Harry Met Sally, sounds of an 'orgasm'
There's no right model for an orgasm. In the media (like the clip above) its always portrayed that its this overwhelming release; sometimes its nothing like that. It really depends on the experience. However, when you get so aroused to the point where you can't get enough stimulation to reach orgasm, sexual tension will subside eventually without orgasm, though it takes longer, and genitals and/or uterus may ache for a while. What's wonderful about orgasms is that you can have multiple! But even if you don't have an orgasm it's okay! Sex can still be pretty pleasurable. It's important that orgasm doesn't become one more performance pressure - it'll make sex a lot more harder, less comfortable, and tense. You can learn how to have orgasms, how to increase our capacity for more and longer ones too. We can think of orgasm as a skill we can learn, an ability that we can expand and enhance.
Why Can't I Reach Orgasm?
Quite a number of women have never had an orgasm or have difficulty reaching one (this Alpha included). This is the part where research and information is key. Also, exploration and touching ourselves could help us learn what stimulates us. Try masturbation - it could really help you discover what you like and what makes you orgasm. Especially in these modern times, we have so many tools to help us reach orgasm! Look at what the world has brought us! Modified vibrators to really, really pleasure ourselves. If you really want to orgasm, tell your partner to help you out and talk about what really feels good and where's the right spot. Being verbal in sex can be the best thing ever. Check out some of these books - they look very informative!
Help From Cosmopolitan!
Happy Humping! Hope to see you at Orgasm Central.
Love,
ALPHA
(Information from Our Bodies, Ourselves)
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