Why Porn?

Why Do Men Love Porn?

In Glamour magazine, there is always a section about men and love from a man's opinion. His name is Jake. In the June issue, he exposed the relationship between a guy and the world of recorded, artificial sex; which he calls a "cherished one". As women, the majority find porn as lame, offensive and disgusting. Many believe that porn can be potentially harmful to a relationship, yet Jake proves this wrong. 

Porn stars do interesting things, so the main fear that Jake says women have when it comes to porn is: Does he want me to do that? Simple answer No. Men admit that they do like to fantasize about threesomes with strippers but date real women. They don't expect you to be a freak or know how to do some dirty sex moves. For real. Similarly, guys don't expect you to look like a porn star. The women in the porn industry seem to always be big breasted, super orgasmic bombshells - and you're thinking well how can I compete with that? Good thing you don't have to. Once again, guys want REAL women. Jake states, "When I'm with a woman, I want to touch her skin, look in her eyes and, yes, even feel some hair. No one wants to be with a faker, and at some point, all that stuff is faking". 

Let him keep his dirty little secret. In society, porn is looked down upon and therefore guys have been conditioned to be ashamed of their...hobbies. Thus, guys tend to hide their dirty habits and I suppose we should let them keep it that way. Jake then mentions how porn could also provide an opportunity that can fuel a monogamous relationship. Watching porn together can be the easier way to explore each others fantasies and sexual desires. However, if you do agree to do this find something that interests you. So if you're not really down for the stuff your guy watches let him know. 

But, how much porn is too much? If he's too interested in the fake and prefers that over you - that's a problem. If he needs some porn to get off while with you - that's a deal breaker. If it goes illegal - get out of there. Jake reassures us though, "Most of us aren't like that, though. Like you, we crave connection and caring alongside our crazy sex, but now and then we simply want a quick release, and we may get it from the gross, dumb but somehow arousing stuff that we relied on before we found you. It's separate from the relationship and in no way equal. The thinking, feeling, warm, soft, sexy real women in our lives are just that: real. And there's not a glowing screen in the world that comes close".

From June 2011 Glamour, Article "Why Men Love Porn, by Jake" 

Love, 

ALPHA