Need A Hand With That?

So, you've been making out with this guy for a while right? The kissing is intense, hands are venturing places - above your clothes though of course! Now depending on your guy, he may offer his handy assistance first or maybe he's anticipating yours. Let's cut to the chase - hand jobs. That's right, you caressing and touching his penis. Hand Jobs. Tug Job. Hand Shandy. Wank Off. Hand Relief. Service. 


So what exactly is a hand job? It's when another person (most likely a woman) stimulates a man's penis with her hand (usually until the man ejaculates). Usually a hand job entails moving the hand up and down - slowly to fast - the penis while it is hard.

Hand Job: When a girl massages a guys penis so that he moans and groans like there is no fucking tomorrow. If done correctly, ejaculation occurs...girls, this is a clean version of oral sex...why get your mouth dirty if you don't have to?! 

Definition provided by Ha from Urban Dictionary, for more definitions click here.

It sounds easy enough right? I mean it's just up and down in different speeds right...? Giving hand jobs aren't hard, giving good ones are the tricky part. So, how do you know if you're doing it correctly - correctly here meaning that he enjoys it or if he ejaculates. Well, if you got your guy to cum through a hand job, congratulations, you seem to know what you're doing! But for the other ladies here are some tips and tricks. 

KY is one of the main lubricant brands.

Lesson One. 

When you're fooling around with your guy and you think it's time here's where to start. Have him lie on his back, or make him comfortable in a position of his choosing. If he's laying down, straddle his thighs. To give him a really good hand job, you will have to incorporate lube. Without lube, it may burn and will probably become raw.  Be sure to watch out for how much you use - too much will make it messy and hard to hold on to his member. 

**Lube, Lubricant - it's a liquid/gel that is used to reduce friction - in a sexual context, it's to help things 'glide' better to make the experience more comfortable and pleasurable. During sex, a women usually gets 'wet' which provides that 'glide', however in a hand job there's really nothing 'wet', therefore lube is used to mock that 'wet' feeling**

OPTION - Another way is to use a condom. It solves a lot of problems, like if you forget that you're wearing rings, it okay! Or, if you have dry hands, it doesn't matter. The condom is lubricated, and also the pre-cum will add to the lubrication. And you don't have to deal with the mess of when he cums. 

Lesson Two.

To perform the basic hand job, firmly, but gently, wrap your fingers around his member and move your fist up and down his shaft in a slow, steady motion. (Confused about the parts of the penis? I was too, try looking at diagram of a penis, like this one). 

Lesson Three.

To make him moan, variety is key! Mix up the speed and pressure as he gets more into it. Make sure not to ignore the super sensitive spots - the corona which is the ridge where the head meets the shaft and the frenulum which is the thin ridge that runs the length of the underside of the penis. So, periodically massage the two with one or two fingers - it's sure to make him swoon.

Lesson Four. 

At one point, using two hands will be an exciting switch. To drive him crazy, form a ring with your thumb and forefinger at the base of his shaft and gently tug downward, while simultaneously fondling his testicles with your other hand. Another one that'll make him go wild: handle his penis with both hands working in precision, first one hand scaling down his shaft followed directly by the other. Make gentle twisting motions on the way down. Or! Wrap both hands around his member and move them in opposite directions as you work your way  up and down his shaft. As he nears orgasm, continue stocking his shaft with one hand, while you gently massage his perineum (the nerve-packed stretch of skin between his anus and testicles) with the pointer and middle fingers of your other hand. 

Lesson Five.

No two men are the same, so of course they'll probably like different things. Experiment with different motions and different routines to discover what will send your man to the moon. Or, ask him what feels good - being verbal is tremendously hot. He even might give you a demo of how he exactly wants to be touched. Try not to be stunned with "performance anxiety",  a lot of guys seem to enjoy it a lot more if a girl seems to be enjoying it too, so have fun with it. It'll bring both of you comfort. Even saying things like "Oh my god, you're so hard" or "You're so big!" will make him so proud and happy - sad and hilarious it may be, men do take pride in the smallest compliments. 

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Hand jobs are actually pretty important if you think about it. It's one of those main sexual steps in a relationship - but it's often overlooked. Also, it's almost always a prelude to actual sex. Most people don't really get how sensual a hand job can be, while you're doing it, you can keep eye contact and kiss and whole lot of everything. Hand jobs allow more control, so you know where and what has to be done, plus you can see the reaction he gives. Also, you should know that every sing part of the penis and balls are super sensitive to touch (even the inner thighs) and none should be neglected during the hand job! 

Information from Cosmopolitan, The Cunting Linguist (Part II will really help!), Sex Info 101 (Different Techniques)

**Don't do anything if you feel it's what you have to do, or because your friends are doing it, or if the guy is making you do it. You have the right to do sexual things at your own pace. If your guy is pressuring you, there's something wrong with that. Remember it's about you too!**

Something to make you smile. 

Good Luck, and don't be afraid to give your guy a hand :) 

Love, 

ALPHA