Wednesday, July 6, 2011

Touched For The Very First Time

Virginity. Virgin. Virginal.  V-Card. Flower. Cherry. Pure. Innocent. A V. Raw. Untouched. 

I promised the truth to you, so here it is: losing your virginity is kind of a big deal. Some may tell you it's not, but after this initial step - you're whole sexual world is opened! So yeah, it is a pretty big deal. I don't think there's any better way to explain this without sharing my own experience. So, here it goes. 

July 7, 2009 (Yes, 2 years ago from this day) is when I lost my v-card to Beta (okay, that's not really his name but just go along with it). Beta and I had been talking for quite awhile and starting dating for about a month. Honestly, we really were crazy about each other and it was just one of those relationships that you knew you were hot for each other just the way you kissed. Its passionate yet gentle, unexpected but secure. Obviously we went through the bases pretty fast, when the making out is that intense bases just slip by. It wasn't long until we've done almost everything except ... 

I'm consider myself lucky to be with a guy like Beta. Not only was he charismatic, sweet and interesting - he was pretty experienced. Before Beta, I had only gone to second base, in fact I only grazed second base. And now here we were, having done almost everything possible. Like I said, Beta was super sweet. He didn't want to pressure me at all and kept telling me, "Only if you want to." It wasn't long before I finally said, "I want this." 

Having sex for the first time is a major deal. But before you lose your flower think about what you're doing deeply; cause once you loose it, you can't get it back. The most important part of the whole process is choosing the right person to take your virginity. I don't want to preach but it is an emotional act and should be done with someone who is special to you. And let me tell you that its totally true about the person who takes your virginity - you never forget them. 

Also, for the first time...it does...hurt. When you loose your virginity, you commonly tear the hymen (however, you can also tear your hymen in other ways too). Thus, when the penis enters it can cause you to bleed and for some people it really hurts. For me, I actually didn't bleed at all and well I didn't feel that much pain. However, for my friend Gamma, she told me that she bleed quite a lot and it was terribly painful. So, each person will have a different experience with their first. Remember to be safe - use a condom or other birth control. Be cautious though! No birth control is 100% and most do not prevent STD's. 

Although Beta and I are no longer together (we still talk, it's a pretty healthy friendship), I don't regret losing my virginity to him. We didn't say 'I Love You' or anything but our feelings were strong for each other and it felt right. It really just happens, so make it special. Remember you only have one 'first time'. 

Love,
ALPHA

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