Touches That Lock Down His Love

Talk is Cheap. 

Use These Moves Instead of Words.  

1. If He's Stressed...Stroke his earlobe between your thumb and index finger

His ears are packed with a ton of sensitive nerve endings that connect directly to his brain. Stimulating them tells his mind to dial down. When doing it on your guy, try experimenting with different pressures to see what he's most responsive to, and use leisurely strokes -- tip: going slow is more effective! 

Want to make a bigger impact? Whisper sweet nothings (or something soothing - your choice) into his ear. When you do this, your breath creates another form of touch in this already heightened area, since the sound waves generate little vibrations that cause the tiny hairs on his ear to stand on end - in a good way. 

2. When He's Telling You a Story...Reach toward him with your palm up.

It's a move known as a half gesture, since it prompts him to complete the action - that is, put his hand in yours. And it's particularly effective in a situation like this, when you want him to know that you're really listening to something that's important to him -- basically, it makes people feel more connected to each other because it triggers people to sync physically with each other. 

Hand-on-hand contact is key. Touching his hand is one of the most primitive, basic ways of conveying that you care. Plus, the fact that your palm is up also signals to his brain that you're open to whatever he's saying. It makes him feel that he can share anything with you. 

3. To Let Him Know That You Love Him...Run your fingers through his hair.

This caress is most powerful when it's done in tandem with other preening gestures, such as playing with his clothing (smoothing a wrinkle in his button-down, adjusting his collar, etc.) Also, it's important to note that out of all the moves, this is probably the most important one to try in your relationship.  Running your fingers through his hair makes it easier for you guy not only to understand how you feel about him but also to show you how he feels in return. 

Use Both hands for double the impact!

4. When He's Pissed Off About Something...Gently squeeze his trapezius muscle (the area between his shoulder and neck).

Anytime your man gets angry, more adrenaline starts pumping through his body, and he automatically switches into fight-or-flight mode. As a result you'll notice that this muscle will tense up big-time. Touching this spot will help prevent his bad mood form escalating. The physical contact will subtly remind him that you have his back - literally. 

However -- if your guy's anger is directed at you, you should do this move from behind. That way, you're not stepping into his personal space face-to-face, which he would instinctively interpret as an aggressive move. 

5. To Give a Sexy Boost...Put your hand on his chest. 

The key to keeping things spicy? Play up his masculinity. He wants to feel like he can protect you. It sounds silly, but guys like to be reminded that they're men and we're women; touching this spot is especially effective since they have pecs and, well, we have boobs. 

Putting your hand here will cause a spike of dopamine in his brain. It will make him feel more passionate toward you. Touching his chest is also an early courtship gesture -- it's something you're more likely to do at the beginning of a relationship and it falls by the wayside once you're a long-term couple. So, when you do this move, it will bring back some of that crazy-in-love (and lust) feeling he had for you when you two first started dating...and then he'll have a hard time keeping his hands off you. 

Provide by Cosmopolitan Magazine: January 

Love, 

ALPHA